A Conversation with Nevrasth3nia

What does BDSM mean to you?

It means breaking the rules of a conservative society and following your own, with someone you trust (and sometimes love). It means doing the things you always dreamt of doing even though they seemed wrong. 

It comes with some risks, but also some amazing benefits, because of how much more intense and intimate these moments can be. It’s not even always necessarily about sex, but rather, it expands the idea of intimacy to go beyond superficial or obviously sexual activities. 

It means learning and developing a new language, sometimes a new lifestyle, that feels more legitimate to you.


The practice that intrigues you the most?

Breathplay for sure. The paradox of feeling suffocated, which can create panic, but finding in those moments an eternity, freedom from space and time, and communicate in a very powerful way your trust, dedication and shameless sexuality at the same time.


What is your fetish?

I’d say latex… It transforms your body into a sculpture.  It can either accentuate or be free from any gender, depending on the style. It smells heavenly, with different colours and thicknesses all having their own notes. It covers, protects, massages, reassures, strengthens and imprisons the body.


Your hidden side? Tell me a secret…

I consider myself a very introverted and reserved person but at the same time quite real and honest, so I don't think I have many "secret" sides ...

Perhaps the fact that people often think that I am confident, that I feel cool or that I am haughty, maybe even a bit of a bitch :D when in reality I am exactly the opposite. I am extremely sensitive, insecure and above all critical and severe with myself, much more than with others and much more than I give to see.


How did you approach the BDSM community?

I actually think it happened very spontaneously.

I’ve always been predisposed and attracted to both certain dynamics and a particular kind of aesthetic.

I also grew up in a pretty artistic environment let’s say, so I’ve started being interested in erotic cinema and especially photography pretty early, maybe also because my relationship with my sexuality and body wasn’t the best at the time.


Can you tell me the dynamics of this world?

Unfortunately, I do not think it is possible to answer this question. The dynamics can be many and very different, it is impossible to generalize.


If I tell you skin, what comes to your mind?

This is easy: surely LATEX is the first thing that comes to mind.

Sweat too. And oxytocin maybe.


The SIRAINER object you desire most?

The set of leather restraints. I can't wait to try them.


A fantasy that you would like to realize…

Considering myself demisexual, let's say that I don't particularly feel the idea of having certain fantasies to fulfill with person X. I have fantasies and I feel attraction only from the moment I start having feelings for someone. But, thinking about it, being able to lead a real alternative lifestyle, integrating certain dynamics into a daily reality, making it a little sexier and eventually, having and wearing a CB for your master, possibly even 24/7, it's a fantasy. So yeah, there it is, it's this one.